Beyoncé and I Have Nothing in Common
Not even the number of hours we have each day.
| You have the same hours in a day as Beyoncé...
Actually...you don’t. Beyoncé’s day is about 4 times as long and productive as yours. Why? Because she can buy them in the form of assistants, bodyguards, nanny’s, chefs and chauffeurs. When’s the last time you think Beyoncé packed lunches, went to the grocery store, cooked dinner, folded 3 loads of laundry, vacuumed her car, took the kids to piano lessons or even scheduled her own doctors appointments? See where I’m headed with this?
Before my Yonce defenders get all up in arms: we all know she has worked for the dollars she makes. She’s a business woman, wife, mother, world dominator, etc and I am in no way taking that from her. We good there? Alright moving on...
We kid ourselves far too often by using guilt as a motivator and rationale for running ourselves into the ground. I get frustrated every time I hear someone use that phrase because it’s not the truth. At face value, it provides an unrealistic expectation that we are expected to do it all on our own. Be superwoman or be nothing. It does not take into account all of the help that Queen B receives every day. It’s an unhealthy tactic in motivation that says that we have to run ourselves to death and we could have the life of a celebrity. Or that by taking breaks, restoring ourselves and spending time investing in our we are somehow doing ourselves a disservice and that is the reason we are not Beyoncé level. It’s essentially a guilt trip. How is that healthy?Instead of using guilt motivation, I provided a list of a few more that are more effective, and better for you.
Find what pushes you | Is it your family? Is it to provide for yourself? Is it to pay for a vacation? Figure out whatever it is within you that will give you motivation to keep pushing.
Doing better than you did yesterday | This is an excellent motivator. Waking up every morning striving your best to be a better version of yourself.
Knowing your impact | Making a difference matters. It gives you purpose. And no matter your career choices and what you do, every move leaves a mark on something.
Remember to lean on those around you, your support system to help build and empire with you. And in the times when there are gaps in that system and you must face and go it alone, remember to take care of yourself and give yourself a break now and again.
Love Loudly. Live Loudly.
Jenn